As we celebrate another New Year, it’s difficult when we remember those we have lost. We know our life span is short, but when a parent, family member, or someone close to us dies we are devastated. Our sense of loss is enormous and although in some cases we may have been expecting it, the pain is no less.
Equally, nursing a family member takes its toll – emotionally and physically. We do it with love and we push ourselves to the limits, determined to heal them. Love and faith is what helps us get through each day.
We go through life with certain expectations, but never really consider the death of a loved one. It’s something that may happen in the future. It’s something that may happen some day, and all of that is very far away. How do we deal with it? That’s a different story for all of us. It’s painful and traumatic and we wonder if that pain will ever ease.
Surprisingly it does, but there is no time limit. Soon the rawness of whom we have lost is replaced with happy memories, albeit memories that cut deep. Soon the memories bring a smile to our face and we can smile again.
May this New Year 2023, bring you serenity and inner strength, and an abundance of blessings. Reach out and support each other.
The gift of love is precious.
The COVID Pandemic has made us more aware of the freedom we took for granted. We are no longer prisoners in our own homes or countries. We are free to spend time with family and friends and socialize normally.
However, let us not forget the people suffering the atrocities of want and war, political borders creating a different kind of pandemic. Too many people live in dire poverty, in total contrast to how we live. People struggle with illness and disabilities in countries which do not have support systems in place for the needy.
Is there any way we can help them this year? Is there anything we can do to alleviate their pain? It’s something we should all think about. Can you imagine the difference it would make if we all helped even one person, one child?
We can only hope and pray that 2023, will bring peace of mind, body, and spirit to those who need it most.
WHAT CAN WE DO THIS YEAR?
Consider a different set of new resolutions this year. Let us think about how we treat people or speak about them. Inject love and kindness into all our thoughts and actions? Lead by example. Don’t allow pre-conceptions to cloud our judgement. Make an effort not to listen to gossip. It fuels ill-feelings and resentment.
Look around at the people who live near you, or work with you. Perhaps, the person who’s always cracking jokes and seems to be the life and soul of the party is actually lonely. Perhaps, there is some trauma in their life that they cover up with humour. Invite him or her out for coffee and get to know the real person. You’ll be pleasantly surprised. If someone you know is shy make friends with them.
Physical pain and mental pain often stop us from portraying our true self – hence the need not to judge others too quickly or too harshly. Make it your goal to treat everyone with respect this year no matter who they are. Lead by example. What better way to start and spend the New Year.
REMOVE THE PREFIX
We often apply negative words to ourselves and others.
Unloved. Unappreciated. Unacceptable. Unable. Uncertain.
This year make a resolution to drop the prefix UN from these words. Consider yourself – Loved – Appreciated – Acceptable in every way – Able to meet all of life’s challenges – Certain in all your actions and thoughts. Apply those positive words to everyone around you. Allow your eyes to perceive the truth, the beauty within us all.
Feeling unloved may involve a bit more work. If you have personal issues to resolve with someone, write them a letter or email it. Try to be objective when you write. I know someone who has done this and it resulted in a total change of communication between her and her partner. Misconceptions lead to unnecessary strife. We all deserve to feel loved. When you love yourself, you perceive the world through different eyes and a different mindset is in play. Love and be loved.
YOU ARE LOVED AND LOVABLE.
How many times have you said or thought ‘I’m unappreciated.’ Your mood drops and resentment may creep in to play with those mind trolls. If it’s appropriate, write a letter or email, or have a calm chat – be it with a family member or friend. Explain your reasons and offer possible solutions. You’ll be pleasantly surprised to discover that quite often family or friends didn’t realize there was an issue. There is nothing wrong with self-appreciation and it flows towards others like a river of gold.
YOU ARE APPRECIATED.
Being unacceptable to others is a painful experience. Be it because of your skin colour, your disability, or even your personality – it causes a frisson of emotions that may well prevent you from being true to yourself and others. Remember, you are ACCEPTABLE because it’s the gift you were born with, a gift that creates the magical persona you are.
YOU ARE ACCEPTABLE IN EVERY WAY.
Have you said or thought, ‘I’m unable to do this. It’s too hard. I’m a failure.’ STOP! Now go back and repeat – ‘I’m able to do this and do it successfully.’ Don’t play the blame game. The mind trolls love that. Get that positive mojo going in your brain and mind.
YOU ARE ABLE TO DO ANYTHING YOU WANT TO.
Feeling uncertain about your actions or plans creates a lack of confidence and you feel frustrated. Step back from the situation. Write down the reason or reasons you feel uncertain. Consider what you need to do to remove that uncertainty. It may be something very simple and once you remove that blockage you will forge ahead.
ALL YOUR THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS THIS YEAR ARE BASED ON CERTAINTY.
Whatever new thoughts or actions you need to put in place this year, do it with zest. It’s not always easy to make these changes, but persist in making 2023 a year of emotional balance and happiness. Everything else will then fall into place.
TRAVEL LIFE FIRST CLASS
Metaphorically speaking, make a promise to yourself to travel first class this year. We can often be too hard on ourselves so treat yourself with kindness. By incurring this change it reflects on everyone around us – a flame of hope in the darkness.
Have a year of wonders. Make it special. Make everyone around you feel special and loved. Set aside life’s hiccups and watch the sun rise. See how awesome it is and watch it set, seemingly sinking into the vast ocean. Light up your days as the sun lights up our lives.
Be the star not only in your own life, but in the lives of the people around you.
LIVE A LITTLE LEARN A LITTLE
Emotions colour so much of what we say and do. Sometimes, we become carried away and don’t see with clarity. We speak with a forked tongue. Beware. This is not a good place to be.
Listen with honesty – setting aside all your preconceptions.
Listen with truth – setting aside your own judgments.
Listen with love – and do not interrupt.
If someone takes the time to share, trusts you enough to do so, you should feel honoured. They perceive you as an important part of their life, important enough to feel free to unload and ask for your help.
“It takes a great man to be a listener.” Calvin Coolidge
I WISH YOU ALL A HAPPY NEW YEAR, A YEAR WHEN AN ABUNDANCE OF BLESSINGS AND JOYFUL MOMENTS ARE SHOWERED UPON YOU.
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